Today, before 10:30 am, I had four spontaneous, genuine, "feel good" type conversations.
Can you guess who they were with?
Not with my husband, though I should note that dialoguing, bantering, arguing or doing whatever it is us married people do with each other when we converse is one of my most favorite activities.
Not with my kids, though chats with them typically leave me laughing or in tears and what mother in this world couldn't benefit from a good ole' emotional release.
Not with co-workers, because at present, well, I don't have any.
I'm a millennial without a J.O.B. -- go figure.
I mean it doesn't count that I have kids who are a crapton of work.
It doesn't matter that I have a house to maintain, bills to pay, pets to care for, and a dream I am organically (ahem, slowly) chasing.
Or even that I was a Girl Scout troop leader for two years, am homeroom mom for two classes and that I volunteer pretty regularly at my children's schools.
None of that matters because I'm not bringing in a steady paycheck.
Ain't no direct deposit going in the bank, and just like that, I'm thrown into the millennial fishbowl tank.
I digress, as expected from a typical woman heading towards middle-age with an overload of thoughts, strong opinions and a shiitake-ton of anxieties.
Back to the conversations that began my day -- three were with acquaintances and one with a stranger.
Each conversation, leaving me feeling better than how I felt before it.
And those conversations, coupled with the daily ones I have with my loved one have given me the confidence to make this utterly on-point, but still likely unpopular declaration:
Millennials are the storytelling generation, and it's our willingness to unabashedly flaunt our imperfections and lead with vulnerability that enables us to establish these passing, yet powerful connections.
Connections which serve to motivate us to keep "beasting" through life, make mistakes, own them, laugh at ourselves and share all of this embarrassing, yet growth-provoking nonsense with whoever cares to be privy to it.
And, guess what? Most of those people leave our presence, and their conversations with us feeling related to, supported, motivated, entertained or even inspired.
Supposedly, millennials are "the therapy generation."
We've also been dubbed "the generation of self-help" and "the generation of emotional intelligence."
I welcome any of these designations, and if you're a millennial, you should too.
Everyone has a story, and I'm telling mine whether she, him, they or you like it.
Because even if she doesn't appreciate it, that other mom over there, she does.
And if he doesn't like what I'm saying, well, that's okay, because I'm not speaking to him; I'm talking to the other man, the one next to him.
What you have to say may or may not reach the person who needs to hear it, though from experience, I can tell you that, most of the time, it will and it does; not right away, not at the exact moment you remark it, but if it's meant to, it will make its way to them.
If it seems that millennials are oversharing, you're not wrong -- we are, and we don't plan on stopping.
There's something to be said for blatantly chasing a better version of yourself, documenting that adventure and inviting others along for the ride.
I used to be someone who veered away from talking to people outside of my family and immediate circle. Conversations with strangers used to cause me stress.
It's the antidote to it.
Want to feel good more throughout your day?
Then make it a crucial point to connect with others at every opportunity.
Yes, even when your kids are acting a fool in Target.
When you are in line for coffee.
When you are waiting for your gym class to start.
When you are picking up your dry cleaning.
When you are walking your dog.
When you are in the school pick-up line.
Whenever you have the chance.
And, the best way to forge these necessary cathartic connections is by unapologetically being your true self and sharing that gorgeous mofo, her imperfect behavior and efforts towards self-improvement with others.
Oh, and one more thing -- watch, listen and respond positively to others when they do the same.