As we approach Mother’s Day, the one day of the year when our kids are obligated to be nice to us, clean, make us a card, and maybe even get us a present, I’m reminded of something my youngest daughter said to me this week.
“You’re the best mom.”
Wait for it…”sometimes.”
I looked at her, and thought, what? wait…really? Sometimes? Talk about a backhanded compliment!
Then I thought about it and realized she was right.
I am the best mom…sometimes.
As much as I would like to think I’m on point everyday, there are days when I look in the mirror and know I’m far from it.
There are days when I cringe after hearing “mommy” for what seems like the 100th time. Can’t I change my name?
There are times when the sound of little feet running into my room before 7 a.m. on the weekend makes me wish I had a trap door under my bed that I could escape into.
There are days when the thought of making another school lunch drives me insane.
There are days when I’d rather poke my eyes with a spork then go to soccer practice, another birthday party, or the park. What happened to the days of going to yoga and watching “Lifetime” movies? Oh yeah, I had kids.
There are days when I just want to scream “leave me alone!” But I know I can’t.
There are days when I swear too much and hope my kids won’t repeat what they’ve heard at the most inopportune times.
These are the days when I don’t feel like the best mom…not even close! These are the days when I feel like a hot mess…days that I question how I’m going to make it through to the next.
Then there are the days when my kids snuggle up next to me and give me the best hugs ever.
There are the days when I multi-task like it’s no one’s business and nail it.
There are the days when my girls get upset and I come up with some witty and comforting words from God knows where and they tell me they feel better afterwards.
There are the days when strangers come up to me and tell me how well-behaved my kids are.
There are the days when my kids accomplish something so wonderful that I can’t believe how proud I am of them.
These are the days when I do feel like the best mom…like I must be doing something right to have such great little humans in my life.
I think being the best mom is realizing that you don’t always have the answers and you’re going to make mistakes. There are countless times that my kids ask me a question and I will tell them I don’t know…that includes third grade math homework!
Letting your kids see you’re not perfect is good for their souls because they hopefully will realize that no one is perfect and that it’s okay to make mistakes.
So when my daughter tells me I’m the best mom…sometimes, she’s just keeping it real. And I’m okay with that.
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