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Challenge: Romance After Kids

Perhaps we could each put our martyr stick down

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Maybe neither dads nor moms are doing the most work.


now stick with my here folks,

we could each put our martyr stick down and agree that both mothers and fathers are stepping it up during this pandemic and equally

— or rather acceptably and tactfully —

sharing the work.

The work that is work of the heart.

The work that requires motivation, dedication, attention, energy, patience and faith.

The work that is raising a family and supporting that family both financially and emotionally.

The exhausting but worth-it work that is being a good human and raising the same.

Because it doesn’t matter if I’m cooking and he’s on work calls or if he’s cleaning and I’m writing.

Or if he’s playing basketball with the kids and I’m folding laundry or if I’m at the park with the kids and he’s getting a run in.

What matters is that

we’re both on the team,

we’re both in the game,

and we’re both participating and putting in the effort.

Some days I’ll hit my parental and housework duties out of the the park but some days, I won’t and he will.

And thank God for that.

Thank God that we’re able to balance each other out and sub in on duties and responsibilities when needed.

It’s not always even, the workload.

It doesn’t always feel fair, the division of “jobs.”

It sure ain’t always easy, and often, we’re both feeling a bit over and underwhelmed.

But you know what makes up for that?

The fact that we’ve got each other, and that our ‘other’ is someone who, forever and always, will choose us, no matter what. No matter what we’re up against.

Because when you find that person, your person, and he or she is someone willing to take on the game of the life with you and handle all it’s curve balls, you don’t let them go.

You grab their hand,

dig your heels in the dirt,

tell ‘em “Let’s go!”

and the two of you take off, fast and fearless, with the only goal being to make it to home together.

A home where sometimes thing are 60/40.

A home where sometimes things are 50/50.

A home where sometimes things are 80/20.

A home where is doesn’t matter what each of us is giving on a single a day, but what each of us is giving for life — and that’s friendship, partnership, support, encouragement, and whole freakin’ giant pile of immense and unconditional love.

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