He cleans the kitchen to avoid me.
I don't mind because I'm avoiding him too and the kitchen gets cleaned. Silver linings.
Sometimes things will break under the weight of it all. Legs are going to shake.
What can I say? It takes a lot of work. It's easy to be polite when that's how you're trained to be. But sometimes you have to fight.
Sometimes you have to let it fly.
You have to let those ugly feelings turn into words come out and you have to say what you need to say.
You have to meet in the middle.
You have to compromise, apologize and you have to grow through what you go through.
You have to have hard conversations.
And you just have to be real.
Because loving someone, really LOVING them, is risking looking ugly when ugly is how it feels inside.
It's permission to let it fly.
To be shaky, to be ugly, to be soft, to be real when it's storming.
To let go and learn from the bad times.
To challenge each other.
To grow together on merged time lines.
Both because of each other and In spite of each other.
But nevertheless, together.
It's understanding that just because you love eachother doesn't always mean you'll like eachother.
So, let it fly and get that kitchen clean. Take time away and take the time to talk.
They don't promise you it's easy, they just promise you it's worth it.
-Kay @Wallflower Writing
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