I have been blessed with two amazing daughters and there are two things I want to give to them: roots and wings. That's it.
I don't strive to be the perfect mom. I am pretty sure that even if it were possible, it would end up hurting my kids. I can't imagine something worse than being raised by the "perfect mother". Our house is a mess sometimes and there are days when my kids eat breakfast for dinner because I had an online launch to manage for my client and this was all I could do. And you know what? I feel zero guilt about it.
Instead, my focus is on making sure that every day they feel understood, accepted for who they are, respected and loved unconditionally. Having a strong sense of belonging is what brings security and then the confidence that they can fly.
So what giving roots to a kid looks like? For me it is all about giving them a home. I am not talking about a physical place (we moved 5 times in the past 8 years), but about a certain feeling. I want them to feel unconditionally supported and loved by their parents. This is what home means to me.
To give them wings is all about encouraging them and giving them the tools to discover themselves, find who they are and what they like and don't like and then follow whatever path they choose. This is not as simple as it sounds. There are lots of days when I question my parenting abilities. But then I remember that I am a "good enough" mom. A mom that gives her best, a mom who fails often but who is not afraid to embrace her failures and see them as a normal part of life: an important part of life that makes you learn and grow.
A few years ago I gave up my successful corporate career and started an online business because I wanted to be a more present mother and also show to my daughters that you can truly design your life the way you want it to be. All I want is to show to my daughters what is possible, instead of simply telling them. And I think this makes me a great mom.