She’s a superhero. She’s a cook, a maid, a playmate, a caretaker, an employee, and probably so many other things she doesn’t get credit for.
Moms do it all, and for some reason we expect them to.
As I've been on my own parenting journey, I've come to really appreciate both my mother and my sister. My mother-in-law, too. Mothers do it all, and they wear all kinds of hats as they do it. I never fully appreciated at women can do until I was a mother myself. Even though it might have been a little too early by some folks' standards, there's not much about my journey I'd change -- other than the fact that I should have taken more time to recover after having Mason. The more I talk with other moms, the more I realize we so seldom take a step back and look at just how much we accomplish.
Even though many women consider motherhood fulfilling, something has to be said about what we expect of women during this period of their lives. OK. Maybe that period of life never goes away; once a mom, always a mom.
But let’s consider some of the amazing feats moms conquer, in the appreciation of motherhood and (sorry, boys) what the female body can do. Face it - your mom, wife, girlfriend, daughter… she’s a rock star.
She knows where everyone is, at all times. Have a work dinner or meeting that will run late? Mom’s on board. She might even have dinner ready for you by the time you get home. School play? She’s in view, somehow making it on time even after sitting in nerve-shattering traffic for an hour. White knuckled, she wouldn’t miss the performance. How does she have enough hours in the day? She makes them, alongside of delightful sandwiches for the kids in the mornings.
She’s a cheerleader, task master, social advisor.
Human incubator, too. Regardless of whether she’s been through a natural birth, or a c-section, she is the single most important person in the child’s life for a hot minute. That means being a buffet and caretaker, even if she’s exhausted from giving birth. Or, if she’s undergone a c-section, it means weeks of recovery. Weeks. The procedure isn’t very long, maybe 60 minutes or so… but it requires nearly six weeks of recovery. That’s asking a lot of a woman, especially because of the rest of things moms tackle.
Women are expected to go back to work pretty quickly, too. Six weeks of maternity leave isn’t even enough to give her the right amount of healing time. But, if she doesn’t go back to work, she might get to experience mommy-shaming. That’s almost as terrible as suggesting she sacrifice her health for her job, right?
Moms do it all, and for some reason we expect them to. It’s time to give women the consideration their bodies and health deserve. So here's to you -- mom -- thank you for the experience you've given me, and what you've taught me along the way.
Moms do it all, and I can't wait to keep wearing all these different hats while I move on like cheerleader, cook, maid, teacher, and more.