At some point in our lives, we will experience change. Some people deal with change better than others, and I myself don't exactly enjoy changes because I am a creature of habit and I like my routines. But I have experienced enough change to know what to do to overcome the fears and stresses that come with those changes — whether they are expected or unexpected.
One of those difficult things is moving, cross country or not. Moving can never be fun, and especially when you're a child. We always hope that our children will just be okay when we move because of a family illness, new job, change of scenery or whatever caused you and your family to move. But in reality, it's just tough! Moving is NOT fun! But how can we as parents make a move easier on our children? When you sell your house to move, what are some things you can do with and for your children to make the transition easier? Here's some tips I have learned:
My parents and I moved from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, to the Nashville, Tennessee area, and it was a very tough move. So when we bought a house in Nashville, TN, it was totally new for me because I left all my friends, family, school, teammates and everything that was familiar with me.
My parents were very good at what they did with me though to help me with the move. They got me plugged into the same sports I was already involved in back home — baseball and basketball. So a tip I would give is to put your kids into as similar as an environment as you possibly can because that will help them transition better. Once they make new friends in their teammates, they will be able to transition and not be so nervous or fearful about this huge move.
My parents couldn't have done that better. And you know what else they did? They really focused on me as a top priority of theirs, even though they had to settle into work and a new environment as well. My parents took me "exploring" through our new city. We tried new restaurants, went to the different ice cream places until I found my favorite, we would go and do some tourist things in Nashville, TN, and so many more things that just made me feel comfortable in my new surroundings.
So overall, the best way to get your kids to adjust to a big move is for YOU as the parent to make sure that your children are your top focus. You need to make things fun for them. Take them to do fun activities, whatever the kids want to go do and try. That's important for you guys as a family to build up a bond because you might not get time like this with your children again. And it could lead to your children not having resentment toward you later in life that was due to that move.