My elder child went to school this year. And it seems to me that experiencing his feelings, worrying about him - I also went to school again. Now I see the situation completely differently - from the teachers side. I began to understand how important the role of a primary school teacher in the formation of the child's psyche, and how responsible the choice of the first teacher for the child is. One of these days I read an exciting study of one of the practicing children's psychologists that the teacher should nurture an inner child. (Here it is)
Once she held a seminar for teachers, and decided to start it with something exciting, so that the teachers would wake up: she brought a device for blowing soap bubbles. In a minute the hall was filled with soap bubbles. But these teachers had practically no emotional response.
Imagine that next to you burst soap bubbles. Some kind of emotional movement should be - it can be outrage, irritation, joy, and then there was ignoring.
It turns out that our inner part - subpersonality - "inner child" reacts to such useless but joyful stimuli.
The inner child of these teachers did not respond. They are not in contact with him.
Our children are always in touch with this inner part of us. And any child feels the sincerity and liveliness of our "inner child". And then the adult helps him to feel and nurture the "inner adult".
It is important for children before the lesson not just to concentrate on the task, but to feel security - openness to the process.
At the beginning of the lessons or before the control, you can hold a small meditation, when the children just close their eyes and present themselves in a safe space.
Children also learn from those teachers who are not afraid, interesting and ... fun - because in the game, "not serious" form of information is remembered.
And modern children of any age do not follow a teacher who simply chastises his subject, not including the "live" - an interactive element. He falls out of the authority zone.
Although this does not mean that the teacher should flirt with the children, because there are teachers who go into flirting - into "disarming".
Here, of course, it is also important to keep the balance.