Sometimes there are no right answers.
There are only right-for-you answers.
Or right-for-your-family answers.
Or right-for-right-now answers.
There are a lot of decisions to make these days. Not so different than usual, except even the most basic ones — decisions we've never really had to think about before — seem impossibly hard.
Send your kids to school or homeschool?
Go to church or stay home?
Attend an important family gathering or social distance?
And that's just to name a few.
Such decisions have never really been an issue. Going to church, or school, or perhaps a wedding have always been a given.
And people sure don't seem to be shy about shouting from the rooftops — or their laptops — how they think we should all be answering these questions.
But the truth is, there are no right answers to these questions or the infinite others that seem impossible to answer.
Sometimes none of the options are good options. Sometimes opinions are loud and cause us to question our own judgment. Sometimes our thoughts are a swirl of confusion as we try to determine the right answer to a question that doesn't have one.
It's okay to just be still. Quiet. To tune out the noise. To breathe and let your brain rest.
You don't have to worry about the right-for-everyone answer, you just have to determine the right-for-you answer.
It's true that some people might be disappointed by the decision you make—after all, no matter what you decide to do, you're never ever going to please everyone. But if you know you're doing the right thing based on your own circumstances—if your answer to those questions has produced a God-given peace in the midst of difficult circumstances—there's no need to feel guilty. There's no need to explain. There's no need to feel bad.
You can walk forward in faith knowing that you made the very best right-for-you or right-for-your family decision that you could—maybe it won't be perfect, but you're human and perfection doesn't exist.
It’s okay to accept that and choose differently than what's right for her, or them, or those people over there.
We are all different. Our circumstances are all different. Our needs are all different. You can't expect there to be a right-for-everyone answer.
But maybe we can agree that some decisions are hard for everyone to make.
And maybe we can all choose our own answers to the tough decisions accordingly, moving forward and leaving the judgment behind.
Let's not allow the weight of someone else's opinion to crush our own sense of what's right for ourselves and for our families.