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Challenge: Follow Your Dreams

How Writing Helps My Daughter Follow Her Dream

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Should we encourage kids to follow their dreams? Children and adults who follow their dreams are often blind to the real and genuine opportunities that present themselves in real life. Dreams are great, but some people allow themselves to sleepwalk through life while passing up real and amazing opportunities every day.

In addition, how many of us really know what we want? Is the partner we ended up with the one we dreamed of as a child? Are we doing the job we thought we would do when we were younger? Have our lives taken the track we thought they would when we dreamed up our dreams as a child? Maybe following our dreams is not a good idea, but there is nothing wrong with trying something new to see how it fits.

Writing Helps My Daughter Follow Her Dreams

Children should be encouraged to write more often. It is frightening how many students are deft at writing text talk with their thumbs, and yet they cannot type a word on a keyboard. What is more frightening is how young people’s lexicon is slowly moving away from English into something perverted. There is no such word as “Addicting,” or “Glamping.”

When I had proofreaders edit my paper in college, they didn’t have to pick through words like “supertasker” and “NvR.” There was no season between spring and summer called Sprummer. If my post here convinces you of anything, I hope it convinces you to spend more time writing and reading with your children.

Get Your Kids Writing More

Writing helps my daughter follow her dreams because it helps her figure out what her dreams are. When you write something down on a word processor document – it becomes real; it isn’t an off-the-cuff remark or wish that is casually blurted out over dinner.

It is irresponsible to encourage a child to follow his or her dreams if his or her dreams consist of whatever falls into his or her head at the time. Children are impulsive and forgetful, so while you are out buying ballet shoes, your daughter has changed her mind and now wants to be a champion horse rider.

Have Them Write Their Dreams And Start Them Off Small

The greatest gift you can give a child is to teach them how to set goals and allow them to experience the joy of achieving those goals. Have your children write their experiences and what they have learned from them, and have them write their goals and encourage them to achieve them. By writing their goals down, they are solidifying their goals and turning them from wishes into objectives.

Teach your child how to set realistic goals, and when your child achieves them, have him or her revisit his/her written work and see if your child is willing to build on that goal.

The fact that the goal is written down will help your child remember what his or her goals are, and the act itself may be a bonding exercise for the both of you.

Writing And Homework Can Help You Both Bond

Any time you spend with your children will help the pair of you bond, especially if the chosen activity involves paying attention to your child. Parents should help their children with their homework, not by giving them the answers, but by helping them to enjoy learning.

Teaching your child is a valuable use of your time, but showing your child how to enjoy learning is priceless. Your child is going to grow up and have to write large essays in college. If you make writing a positive and productive exercise when your child is young, then he or she will not dislike writing essays when he or she grows older.

Will My Daughter Ever Achieve Her Goals?

She has already achieved many of her goals, from learning how to round numbers, to her dream of jumping from the diving board at the local pool. Her dreams are real and written down. Every goal she achieves helps to push her confidence and self esteem upwards. I feel sorry for the children whose parents brag that their child recently reached position three in their 17th singing audition this year.

If it were not for our writing exercises, my daughter would say her dreams are to be the first ballerina to fly a space ship. She would spend her life wishing for things and blaming the world for not giving them to her.

Thanks to our writing and diary exercises, she knows the value of setting a goal and achieving it. She also knows that if you have a dream, you need to write it down, plan for it, and take steps to achieve it.

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