I have loved watching you on the TODAY show for years! You are an incredible role model of a working mom, and I look up to you so much! You and the rest of the anchors always make my day and bring so much joy into our home. I wanted to write you to let you know that I am cheering you on in your infertility journey all the way from Louisville, KY! My husband and I shared a very similar journey and my heart breaks for you and Brian as you walk down this uncertain and sometimes lonely road. BUT YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Six years ago, I was diagnosed with PCOS and we began our struggle with infertility. We tried EVERYTHING (medications, ovulation tracking, temperature checking, procedures, and inseminations) before stepping into IVF. We were SO scared and unsure what to expect going into it. We did the shots, medications, progesterone, estrogen (your world is about to get way more fun ;)) and were ecstatic to have multiple embryos to choose from when it was time to transfer. Two weeks after our transfer, we found out we were expecting! “Overjoyed” doesn’t even explain our emotions. But just like you, seven weeks of pregnancy came to a screeching halt when my body miscarried our very first child. We had longed and prayed for this baby, but God needed him or her more than we did. The months following that were hard and I was frequently angry at myself and God for taking this child from us. However, I slowly learned that if God took that baby away, He had something better planned that we couldn’t see. We got pregnant again with our second transfer and have a sweet 20 month old baby boy now. We couldn’t imagine our life without him, and it is so clear that God had always intended for us to be parents to Evan. A year after he was born, we went back to our fertility specialist to plan for another transfer. We desperately wanted Evan to have a sibling and we love being parents. With only two healthy embryos left, we were nervous, but excited for the transfers. Over the span of a few months, we transferred both embryos. Neither of the transfers were successful. Just like that, our infertility journey was over. Our hearts were shattered, yet just like He always does, God has bigger plans for our family. We are now in the process of adopting a sibling for our sweet Evan and can’t wait to see who He picks for our family next. We have always talked about adoption, but never believed it would be part of our story. But here we are, continuing down this crazy road of trying to grow our family and trusting God to lead us every step of the way!
If we have learned anything through this journey, it is this:
-Emotions are real. Feel them and pray for God to help channel them for good.
- We must choose joy in the journey that God sets before us. None of our story is a mistake or a surprise to Him!
- Lean on others and let them share your burden with you!
I am carrying your struggles with me and am thinking about you every day. I will continue to pray for you and your family as you go through the waters of infertility. Praying that God will use this experience to strengthen your marriage and relationship with God, and that the One who brings all things together for good will add more joy to your family than you can even imagine! Thank you for having the courage and bravery to share your story because it resonates with so many of us! So much love from Kentucky!
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