We have all heard the saying, “dance like no one is watching”. When we think no one is watching, we dance freely and we forget about everything else in the world. It means being present and not consumed by the expectations of others. When we think some one is watching us our moves are more reserved and we are all too aware, focusing on their view of us.
My son Stalen is 6 years old, autistic and non-speaking. He lives his life every day dancing like no one is watching. I realized that today as I watched him in one of his favourite places on the floor sprawled out in front of the patio door windows with his music. I’m not quite sure if he’s basking in the sunshine or patiently waiting the arrival of our neighbours big lawn Santa. But, regardless he is giggling and squealing with pure delight. He doesn’t matter who is in the room or who is watching. He always does what makes his heart happy.
When I think about it, there are lots of things that I don’t do because of the lack of time, lack of energy or societal norms. I’m often aware of who is in my presence and who may be watching. I want to dance more like no one is watching. I want to get lost in the moment more.
When we go to the doctors office, Stalen doesn’t play with the toys or read the books, he stares out the window enjoying one of the best views of the busiest street in town.
When we travel in the car he brings his headphones and listens to his own music even though we listen to music the whole drive.
We have a Turkey dinner and he prefers his veggie bologenese pasta stars. We have cake and he has crackers, even when it’s his birthday cake. Yet, he is all smiles and happy consuming what he loves.
I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who is more true to their own heart. When your busy dancing like no one is watching, there is no time to worry about judgements, criticism, or fear of what others may think.
Stalen may only be 6 years old but his lessons in how he lives and loves are well beyond his years. The best lessons are those taught from the heart and seeing immeasurable joy over and over, no words needed.
I think we could all appreciate this lesson to take more time to dance like no one is watching and do more of what makes our hearts happy.
Dance for you!
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