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Adaptation Clothes Are Becoming Mainstream And I’m So Excited.

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“Are you ready to go back to school?!” Is everyone’s favorite question to ask these days. Whit usually smiles this smug smile and gives a wink. Our soon to be four year old, Vivi, tells everyone no. Every year I have this hope that Whitman will want to pick out his backpack, lunch box, and some clothes to rock his school year. Every year it’s just him looking at things and shrugging. We have Vivi’s back to school shopping done. We’re just waiting for her unicorn backpack to arrive. But Whit is always tricky.

You have to approach it in a way that has him excited. This year I’m excited that stores like Target, JCPenny, and Kohls are offering adaptive clothes! Whit needs a little extra help with jean zippers and pull on jeans just don’t give him the dignity he deserves so we usually stick to sweatpants with the occasional khaki and hope that his teachers help him if needed. In a way I feel heard.

It’s hard to find clothes that fit Whit’s sensory needs. It’s not just about cutting out a tag, although we do that, it’s about finding clothes that are lightweight and comfortable so he can excel in what he’s doing. If it’s too heavy he’ll get hot and strip because even the slightest drop of sweat is unacceptable in his book. If it’s too light and he’s cold he won’t sit still he’ll run around to make himself warm. Adding a jacket or another layer after the fact isn’t an option once the jacket is off if he puts it back on he assumes it’s time to leave. So it’s a fine line. We’ve been called to the school before because his butt got wet on the slide and he refused to put on the pants we had at school for him. The same happened with his shoes and socks.

Target and JCPenny have done amazing and made affordable adaptive clothes for kids. JCPenny has husky sizes even for their new adaptive clothesline. One thing I’ve learned with Whit this past school year is he just wants to belong. He is well aware of his peers and wants to dress and be like them. With low muscle tone and delay in some other skills dressing like peers isn’t always an option but now I feel like we have options. I feel seen and heard.

I feel like maybe this year will be the year that we as a special needs family are a little closer to full inclusion. Full inclusion is a hope and dream of mine. Where no child that is different is forced to feel different they are always included. Where parents can run to a store and get a new shirt for their child that has an ostomy bag can go and get a cover in store, feeding tube parents can get a shirt that doesn’t irritate the button. If you’re reading this unsure of any of this, consider yourself lucky.

Adaptation clothing in big stores is such an amazing step in the right direction. I have always felt that being in the special needs world you’re always trying to fit at a table not made for you but because your table hasn’t been created yet so you’re forced to sit at the table. It’s hard and uncomfortable. There are feelings of failure that really aren’t your failures. My prayer is that with these subtle changes things will keep coming and we can be in the world where there is full inclusion at playgrounds, the beach, airports, anywhere your heart can imagine. One step at a time I truly feel we are getting there.


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