Have you bumped into the stage of parenting your teen? My all good wishes are with you. Get ready for the large number of emotional outbursts, eye rolling, and thoughts of running away.
To raise a selfless, or a dependent child depends on the parenting style. Children are like the seedlings, the way you water them, nourish or take care of them, better are the chances, the seedling will turn into a fruitful tree. Your parenting style can carve the future of your kids. If it is all holdover from childhood, the kids will feel isolated. They will not find any space to explore. Similarly, if you leave them freely without any parental control; they will become irresponsible adults. To maintain a balance is essential, you need to learn the art when to step in to help your child with their struggles and conflict and when to back off to let them solve these situations on their own.
Early adolescence can be a crucial time for parents and kids alike. You have come up with a lot of parenting responsibilities at this time. Because your teens need a right path at this age, and only you can guide them and help them to go through this age safely without getting into any addictions. If you do your job better at this time, your teen will thrive the best of his life for lifetime.
Here are some helpful tips on helping your child through early adolescence. Read on to find out.
Show your love
Early Adolescence is the period of having unwelcome transformations in your child’s personality. This transformation can lead them to body image issues. At this time your kid needs adults who are always there for them, communicate with them, spend time and show a sincere interest in them. Be there with your kids as much as possible. Show your affection, love, and care towards them. This will help them in a right way, and they will learn the art of loving others. Loving your children is not necessarily mean to love what they do, guide them what is right and what is wrong with them. Show them the right path.
Give them the back of your support
Having the back of your parents’ support is one of the most satisfying feeling ever. After becoming a parent, you still need your parents’ support to deal with life’s challenges. Likewise, teenagers need assistance at the time when they struggle with problems that may seem meaningless to their parents. They need acknowledgment when they’ve done their best. Always encourage your child; it will develop positive personality traits in them.
Your adolescents might think that you are getting strict by setting rules on them, but that’s okay! Do not get disheartened; it’s their age to feel negative about everything. Limits keep young teens, safe both physically and emotionally. This is the age when they can be at risk for a range of negative behavioral and emotional consequences. They can fall prey to bad addictions like drinking, smoking, drug addiction, etc. If you do not set limits at this stage, then it will have adverse effects on their future. Restrict them from all the bad addictions.
Be an inspiring role model
Teens need inspiring role models. Try to live with the values and behavior that you wish to develop in your child’s personality. Give your teens something to admire and follow. If you treat everyone with kindness and compassion, your child stands a better chance of following your example. Try to practice what you preach, avoid making negative comments about people, be optimistic, and admit your mistakes. These habits will encourage your child to respond in the same way.
Learn when to Step in to help your child and When to back off
When you need to Step back
If your parenting style is more of monitoring and worrying about your child’s every move, then it’s time to back off and watch your children develop their own self-esteem.
If you have been shouldering debt for an adult son or daughter and you have caught up in a pattern on non-productivity, back off. It’s time to let them know the importance of money, hard work and earning.
If you always tell your kids that they are the best at everything, it creates a problem. Do not raise an egomaniac who doesn't have the skills to live a healthy rounded life, instead raise a creative, humble child.
An article has been published in the New York Times about raising creative children; the first step is to, back off. If you leave your child to learn themselves, they focus their energy producing new insight and invent their research.
A research was conducted on “Discriminating Characteristics of the Families of Highly Creative Adolescents” by JOHN S. DACEY. It was found that the families whose children were rated among the most creative 5 percent in their school system with those who were ordinary and average. It was found that the parents of average children had some specific rules like schedules for homework, bedtime, and others while the parents of highly creative children have less that only one rule.
So if you want to raise a creative child, back off, and let them learn something new on their own, let them inquire, explore and become the most successful adults of tomorrow.
When to Step in
Disrespect cannot be tolerated at any cost. If you are giving your child a chance to disrespect you, then they will be the same with everybody. Even, in the real world, you would never allow another grown adult to treat you similarly. So step into their lives and teach your child the morals to raise children who are good people.
Morality is essential to learn at this stage, and only you can do this. If you allow your children to focus on good behavior, it will decrease the chance of misbehavior
Parent-children bond can be both amazing and worst. It depends on you; how you understand your kids and how strategically you guide them to get through difficult situations. Nurture your teens with compassion, understanding, and love, and see them transformed into better human beings.
Good Luck with your parenting!