Just in the last month we've had three babies born in our circle of friends and we've still got one more on the way. (Baby fever, much?) And with new babies comes a lot of "help wanted."
But there's this thing that us new moms like to do. Well, moms in general, for that matter. We love to feel like we can do it all. We love to feel like super heroes. I don't see anything wrong with that and in fact, I find it pretty amazing when a mom can actually realize how great she is at juggling everything she has going on in life.
With that being said, there are four things I think every new mom needs to be reminded of:
1. You're a super hero. You're amazing. Don't ever think otherwise.
You're going to have sudden lapses in judgement and you're going to think to yourself, "Why can't I just be good at this mom thing!" We all go through the highs and the lows and the very in-betweens but we've got to realize that that's just life. That's all part of this mommyhood thing we signed up for.
But in those moments of panic just remind yourself - I'm amazing. I'm incredible. I'm wonderful at being a mom + I'm the perfect mom for my kids. You grew a human and you're raising a human and that, in itself, makes you incredible.
Moms: You're wonderful and amazing and don't ever forget that.
2. Accept help.
I don't know about you but it truly warms my heart to be able to give help to new moms. Whether that's bringing over dinner or running errands or grocery shopping or even watching your baby while you take a much-needed power nap, helping others is something that makes me happy. It fills my heart with joy to be able to provide something to someone that may not necessarily NEED the help, but to provide it to someone who DESERVES it.
You deserve it. Just accept the help. It doesn't mean that you can't do it on your own but why not give yourself a little break and let your friends treat you?
3. Ask for help.
It's the hardest thing in the world to do but man, there are so many people out there who will be there for you in an instant. I mean, who wouldn't want to come over and hold your adorable newborn baby for you? So instead of letting yourself get to the point of utter exhaustion or overwhelming frustration, just ask for help.
I promise, no one will ever think less of you.
4. It's just a phase.
Repeat after me: It's just a phase.
I can't even count how many times I've thought to myself, "Is Ava going to do this forever?" I've even posted countless times on social media about some of the phases Ava has encountered, feeling down and feeling as though we would be trapped in them forever. From separation anxiety to not eating solids to being attached to my boob (quite literally) and never wanting to let it go, to sleep regressions, anti-napping sprees, teething and more...they're all phases and they will go away in time.
So if you're feeling doomed and just cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, just remember: It's just a phase.
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