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Digging Deep to Do Your Best Through the Teen Years

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Notice the title says to "do your best".

Simply put, the teenage years are some of the toughest, most grueling years to get through as a family, for all parties involved. Parents are having to deal with perhaps the most rebellious, uncertain years, while kids often deal with confusion and depression while trying to find their way.

With their hormones changing rapidly and as the family tries to get through it together, it's important that you take a deep breath.

No matter how difficult these years get, remember that it'll get better, and that these growing pains will lead to a beautiful relationship where you'll get to love and respect each other as adults.

For now, follow these tips so you can dig deep and remain the best parent you can be.

Give Family Counseling Serious Consideration

Never underestimate how helpful family counseling can be. Some of the stress and heartache that comes with these years can be worked through when everyone involved gets to speak clearly and openly.

By having a therapist act as a third-party, the family will be able to work through even the toughest issues. Since the teenager years tend to be emotionally volatile, therapy could benefit everyone.

These family therapists can cost $75 per hour and up, so make sure you budget for these services.

Relate With Them Over the Dangers, Rather Than Simply Preaching

Rather than sit up all night in fear, have in depth conversations about every danger that your child can face.

However, having the talks isn't enough -- you need to make sure your message is getting across. While you shouldn't live in fear, the danger of the teenage years is something that must be spoken about.

For instance, did you know that 8 teenagers die everyday in DUI related car crashes?

To relate to your child in a way that counts, make these conversations realistic and matter of fact. Open the floor by telling your teenager about alcohol related experiences you've been through or witnessed. Speak to them about the things you've learned in your life and what you would do different as a teenager.

By letting them know you've actually lived some life and have perspective, they're more likely to take it to heart than if you're always simply preaching.

Help Your Child Find Their Purpose

The biggest thing you can do for your child during the teen years is help them find direction.

Encourage them to delve deeper into the things they're passionate about, no matter how out there. In a world where entrepreneurship is blowing up thanks to the internet's reach, never let outdated paradigms govern how you think about careers.

By encouraging your teenager to find their purpose, they'll have more direction, and school won't simply be about grades. Teens that are involved in activities are also less likely to get involved with drugs or habits that could pose a threat to their future.

If you use these three tips as a foundation, you'll be able to dig deep and shine through the teen years.

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