I wish that I would have went into those first months not expecting so many things. I expected to breast feed but that didn't work out even after many consultations with lactation consultants, herbal supplements, and sleepless nights and days. I expected that my baby would sleep alone in her cradle, and love it, and that definitely didn't happen. I expected that I would LOVE maternity leave, and I didn't. I spent many days out of those first 2 months crying because things were not going as I expected. Once I finally let go of all those expectations, and dealt with each day as it came, we were all a much happier family! Your baby will sleep eventually, and weather you breastfeed or formula feed your baby will still get what he or she needs, and you shouldn't feel like a failure if it doesn't work out. I spent those first two months wanting my baby to grow up too fast, "get past 4 months and maybe she won't have colic", "Can't wait til she can talk so she can tell me what is wrong", etc. Now I just want time to slow down.