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Why moms need to be understanding when we cancel plans on each other

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I think it’s time for us moms to make a pact.

We shouldn’t feel the need to apologize when we cancel plans on each other,

and we definitely should NEVER make each other feel guilty for it.

Because we all know what it’s like to make plans with the best of intentions. We fully believe we’ll be there, and we want to be there. We really do!

But then the day happens:

The tantrums,

the "Mommy, come here please!" every time we sit down,

the whining and fighting,

the endless mess,

and nothing in the moment we’re supposed to leave the house feels right except for a return inside for a quiet night in pajamas with our friend, Netflix.

Because there are days, we’re so tired from showing up for everyone else that by the end of the day, we can’t show up for anyone, except for ourselves. Especially if we’re going to do it again in the morning, which we will.

So, we cancel plans.

Because we can't emotionally show up, so what's the point of physically being there?

And a lot of the time in motherhood, something DOES come up.

One of our children gets a virus,

the baby won’t go to sleep and needs us,

our partner’s stuck in bad traffic,

we’re helping with a school project due tomorrow,

we have too much to catch up on around the house.

Because motherhood is unpredictable, and our family comes first.

So, it’s okay to cancel on coffee dates with close friends,


whatever we need.

Because being a mom is hard

and us moms should know and understand that better than anyone.

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