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Why I've decided to keep Valentine's Day messages on my daughter's door all year

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I tape hearts on my daughter’s wall the night before Valentine’s Day.

Each one is a statement I tell her often about her personality, her kind and generous spirit, and her other positive characteristics.

I normally take them down the next day, but this year I'm doing things differently.

π—œ'𝗺 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗢𝗻𝗴 π˜π—΅π—²π—Ί 𝗼𝗻 𝗡𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗼𝗼𝗿.

I want her to hold onto what is written on those hearts π‘’π‘£π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘¦ 𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑙𝑒 π‘‘π‘Žπ‘¦. I want her to remember those words when her inner critic is telling her a different message.

The next time she is struggling to answer a math question, I want her to think of the heart that says, β€œYou are capable.” When she is afraid to try something new, I want her to visualize the words, β€œYou are brave.” The next time she accidentally knocks over her cup while putting the dishes in the dishwasher, I want her to remember, β€œYou are helpful.”

My hope is that these messages that come from my heart and my voice 𝑀𝑖𝑙𝑙 π‘’π‘£π‘’π‘›π‘‘π‘’π‘Žπ‘™π‘™π‘¦ π‘π‘œπ‘šπ‘’ π‘“π‘Ÿπ‘œπ‘š β„Žπ‘’π‘Ÿ π‘œπ‘€π‘› β„Žπ‘’π‘Žπ‘Ÿπ‘‘ π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘£π‘œπ‘–π‘π‘’.

I hope she will remember them until they are no longer words; they are truths that whisper in her ear when life is cold and cruel.

I hope she remembers who she truly is whenever she is faced with fear, doubts, and insecurity.

Most of all, I hope π‘ β„Žπ‘’ 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑖𝑛 β„Žπ‘’π‘Ÿπ‘ π‘’π‘™π‘“ π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘™π‘œπ‘£π‘’π‘  β„Žπ‘’π‘Ÿπ‘ π‘’π‘™π‘“ as much as the person who wrote her those messages.

This was previously written on the author's Facebook page. Randi is the creator of Surviving Mom Blog. You can find her on Facebook here and on Instagram here.

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