I was watching the Today Show Parents segment called Through Mom's Eyes, and it featured an interview with Sonya Curry, the mother of NBA superstar brothers Steph and Seth Curry. In the segment, Sonya mentioned how she once didn’t allow Steph, who plays for the Golden State Warriors, to play in a basketball game when he was in middle school because he didn’t do his chores the night before.
”We only work as a family if everyone does their part. It is not my job to do everything for everybody,” the mom of three grown children said to NBC broadcast journalist Sheinelle Jones.
How refreshing to see a mom of (now) professional athletes parent so purposefully. It takes work to raise kids who are not entitled, superstar athlete or not.
There was of course much more in that interview than chores, and it is evident that mom Sonya has an endearing, humble relationship with her children; with her insistence on her son following through on his commitment to doing his chores, it seems that she wanted to make sure he stayed grounded in what was important to them – family and faith, which was one of the main takeaways of the interview.
The importance of kids following through on chores goes beyond of just having kids work around the house and parents not wanting to do everything around the house. it’s bigger than that.
It's about not raising entitled kids, it's about teaching good work ethics, it's about building character, it's about encouraging our kids to have contribute.
Every individual member is part of the family and here to make the family function; and requiring our kids to do chores is a way to help reinforce that we are in this together.
It takes a lot to run the family and when kids are required to work, to do everyday and weekly chores, they begin to see that; they begin to see that life isn't served on a silver platter.
Teaching our children to do tasks around the house is something we can begin at an early age with them. At a young age, our kids usually love doing chores. Let them, even it's just a small task and even if they do not do it "perfectly." It is fun for them and they take pride in what they can do, “all by myself.” I remember my kids from about the age of 3 could place forks and spoons on the table to prepare for our family meal, or they could clean up their toys in their bedrooms.
Young and older alike, all stages and ages, all in the family need to help make the household function, no matter what.
I remember once last summer asking my youngest son, who is 15, to unload the dishes and he said, "I worked today,” which was true — he had a part time job as a lifeguard at the local pool; he also works as a soccer referee, which is also awesome. But, I said to to him that we all work and we all still need his help around the house. My husband piped in agreeing, adding that he works full time and he also does dishes and folds clothes and just does what is needed around the house at any given time.
We are all in this together. We are family. And we all matter and we all contribute and we are all important to keeping our family household going.
We only work as a family when everyone does their part, just like Sonya said.