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'You look exhausted' and 8 other things you should never say to a pregnant woman

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When I was pregnant with our Annie almost two years ago – where does the time go?! – I was overwhelmed with kind wishes and positive remarks during my first pregnancy. From friends to friendly people in line at Kroger, I was blessed to be surrounded with encouraging and supportive folks … most of the time.

You see, maybe 1% of the time I was faced with some unflattering and often times invasive comments and observations which left me feeling all the feels and none of them glowing.


Now as I’m over halfway into my second pregnancy with our baby boy I’ve noticed the same trend of unwarranted awkward comments, and heard from my friends they experienced the same in their subsequent pregnancies.

As I’ve said before, I’m sure the comments are not meant to be insensitive and are likely just said in the name of trying to make conversation BUT they can easily come across the wrong way to a woman who is busy trying to grow a human while chasing after her almost two year old.

Here are some comments said to pregnant women (myself and friends included) while pregnant with their 2nd, 3rd or 4th baby:

1. You popped out way earlier with this one than the last.

2. Wow! You got a lot bigger a lot faster with your second!

3. (At her 30 week appt.) Honey, I hope they induce you today. You both look ready.

4. Can you imagine how many diapers you’re going to need once the new baby joins the mix?

5. Oh you look exhausted – morning sickness sticking around?

6. (Referring to our first child) Bless her heart, she’s not going to know what to do when she doesn’t get nearly enough attention.

7. Why 3 kids? That’s so outnumbered. You can’t sit in a booth anymore and how do you even book a hotel room?

8. (With a pitiful look) Are you going to get to stay home with this one? Or will you have to work like you did with your first?

9. Oh so exciting, you’ll have one girl and one boy! So you’re done, right?

What's the craziest thing someone said to you during your pregnancy?

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