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The Emerging Butterfly

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WHEN YOU ARE INTENSELY CONNECTED EMOTIONALLY, YOUR DAUGHTER'S EMOTIONS ARE STIFLED.

To breathe, she must push you away. To spread her wings, she must push you away. To grow, she must push you away.

SHE NEEDS SPACE TO DEVELOP AND GROW.

Imagine a caterpillar that is snuggled and warm in her cocoon. She's gathering her strength for her beautiful transformation. Now imagine that it's time for her to burst forth from her cocoon to stretch her beautiful and powerful wings. But sadly she can't. Although with good intention...

SOMEONE IS SQUEEZING HER SO TIGHTLY THAT THE BEAUTIFUL EMERGING BUTTERFLY IS STUCK.

As hard as she tries, she can't emerge from her cocoon. She struggles and pushes and can't break free. She kicks and screams. She wiggles and squirms. She is filled with despair and anxiety because she feels trapped. In her last attempt to show the world who she has become, she pushes that warm and loving hand away with all of her might.

ONLY THEN IS SHE ABLE TO SPREAD HER WINGS AND FLY.

Determined, she flaps her strong and beautiful wings. She sees the world from a whole new angle. Endless roads and possibilities come into view. She now understands that there is a whole new world that she has yet to explore. But she begins to run out of energy with all of this new awareness.

SHE NEEDS A PLACE TO LAND TO REST HER WINGS.

She goes back to her cocoon, not to crawl back inside, but to find a place of solace and comfort. The familiarity gives her strength for the adventures that she will face tomorrow.

YOUR DAUGHTER IS A BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLY.

LET HER SHOW YOU HER NEW COLORS.

You will be delighted and surprised.

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