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Divorce, Autism and Starting Over after 50

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“Life isn’t always beautiful pics, vacations and fun nights out. Divorce happens and it’s not for the faint of heart.“


My Reality…

I lost everything…

No, Literally…EVERYTHING.

Three months ago I was honestly worried me and my boys would be homeless.
After a brutal ten year divorce trial I was left with nothing, losing everything but my clothes, my old van and the bits and pieces of furniture I’ve collected over the years.

Life isn’t always beautiful pics, vacations and fun nights out. Divorce happens and it’s not for the faint of heart.

For now, here’s the gist of it…

(Btw The old me would have NEVER shared this…I would have been too embarrassed. But I’m not that chick anymore…crap happens…to ALL of us…for me it just feels therapeutic to be open about it and maybe someone going through a tough time can benefit from it…)

I’ve raised my boys, 20 and 21 years old in our beautiful home by the beach from the day they were born. We had a very comfortable life, a beautiful home and went on yearly exotic vacations. The consistency and financial stability made life easier for my youngest who was diagnosed severely Autistic at the age of two.

When I got the news that we had two months to be out of our home, I started looking in to RV living as an option…definitely not ideal given our situation, but a few months ago, it seemed like my only option.

I’ll say this about these past 10 years….I’ve def been HUMBLED!

I’ve come out of this learning one major life lesson…don’t WASTE years of your life worrying about the things and or people you can’t control!Because it’s just that…a total WASTE!

(And I’ve wasted enough time for us all!)

Just believe and know that even if it takes longer than you hoped…EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS WORK OUT IN THE END.

NEVER in my wildest dreams could have pictured myself in this position…I never in my life realized that there are people in this world that will do literally anything, regardless of it’s affects on even their children, just to see you fail.I’ve honestly still not quite wrapped my head around this one…I probably never will and I’m finally at peace with that.

I always imagined by 52 my life would be super settled, safe and comfortable.

I completely stoped caring for myself, totally let myself go and every day focused all of my attention on my boys, googling my youngest symptoms and spending so much time learning California laws regarding services for autism, divorce and conservatorship law that I feel like I could pass the bar exam at this point.

It got to the point where I basically became a recluse, never leaving my home, not returning messages, Ignoring any possibility of social interaction. It seemed as though every time I turned around there was more stress coming my way.

10 years of stress with two court trials coming to an end and hopefully the answer to my younger sons on going medical problems being solved….and the news that me and the boys have found a beautiful place to call our own when just a few months ago that seemed like an impossibility!

I’ve never moved in my life! I lived at home until I got married and lived in the same home after that for the last 23 years.

I’m scared.

I’m sad to leave the only home they’ve known.

But I’m also so grateful it’s all over and that everything worked out and that we have a new Apartmet to call home!

This IS going to be AMAZING.

Change is super scary…

But In our case I think change is exactly what we need to move onward and upward!

#reality #autism #truth #life-changing


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