People ask me sometimes how I juggle all the things.
They ask me how I manage working from home and take care of two kids at the same time.
The truth is.....I don’t.
I’m a hot mess 95% of the time.
I scream and yell.
I am exhausted.
I leave laundry in the washer for days.
I push myself too hard.
I put too much on my plate.
I forget to eat sometimes.
This time in my life, while my kids are small, and I don’t have a choice but to work, is so hard.
Don’t tell me I’m so blessed to have happy, healthy kids.
Don’t tell me to enjoy it while I can.
Don’t tell me to cherish every second now, even the bad ones, because I’ll miss them some day. Don’t tell me to stop complaining because I am lucky to be a mother.
I know all those things. Trust me, I’m well aware.
Telling me those things isn’t going to make me feel better, it’s going to make me feel ashamed. It’s going to make me feel guilty and inadequate.
I love my kids fiercely and I love being a mom.
But that doesn’t mean I have to love parenting.
I’m allowed to feel all the things.
I’m allowed to vent and express my frustrations. I’m allowed to say when I’m not okay.
As a society, we need to start validating and supporting moms when they feel overwhelmed instead of telling them to choke their feelings down, plaster on a smile, and be positive. In fact, let’s stop telling moms how they should be feeling altogether because motherhood isn’t a “one size fits all” experience.
My life might be a hot mess 95% of the time.
I might cry.
I might yell.
I might be exhausted.
I might complain and vent.
But please don’t tell me it will be okay.
Don’t tell me everything will be fine.
Let me know my feelings are recognized and valid.
Let me know I’m not alone.
And sister, I promise to do the same for you.