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Challenge: Parenting Resolutions

Loving Your Mom Tribe Better in 2020

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When my feet hit the floor each morning, my thoughts are often on myself:

When can I get my coffee? Will I do my work-out video first or shower? My thoughts are on my emotions. How do I feel? Am I well-rested? Will it be a good or bad day?

Then as soon as my kids' bellies are growling for waffles, I have no choice but to tend to their needs.

Selfishness and self-centeredness is a daily battle. Reaching out to others may not always come natural but it's necessary as the famous quote goes, "No man {woman} is an island."

We're hard-wired for relationships and connections with others. It runs through our blood and we need it like oxygen. Isolation isn't our friend, even though we make think it is with our busy schedules.

As we get deeper into 2020, I'm resolving to do better at the relationships already in my life, specifically with my mom friends.

I want to love them better. I want to surprise them with coffee on their doorstep, seek to understand their heart more, be fully invested in their life, know what their ups and downs are, and know how I can pray for their kids and marriage.

I also want to be willing to be more vulnerable about my struggles - willing to expose the parts in my heart that aren't so pretty and the insecurities I face. I want them to know that together we can do anything we set our mind to do. But alone, we can't conquer nearly as much. Alone, life is pretty boring.

I want to teach my kids the joy of friendship and doing life together.


I want to open my home more for conversations around the table, even if they're hard ones. Even if crumbs are on the floor and laundry is piled on the couch. It's not about what my home looks like anyway.

I want us to be able to say, "I'm sorry. Will you forgive me?" and to move forward in grace and love.

I want to keep laughing and finding the humor in difficult circumstances. To keep putting shared experiences on the calendar like girls' night outs and road trips.

I want to keep serving together so we can be a light to our hurting world.

I treasure my mom tribe in this season of life. It's a small circle of women, but it's mighty. They've loved me well in the moments I needed them, and I will continue to love them more this year.

As you think about your season of life and the relationships in front of you, who needs you exactly for who you are? How can you better show love to your tribe? As you get out of your comfort zone, get ready to find even more treasure in the gift of your friendships.

When you find your heart creeping toward selfishness, get your eyes off yourself, and go serve. I'll do the same.

Samantha Krieger is a pastor's wife and mom to four children, 11 and under. She's the author of Quiet Time: A 30-day Devotional Retreat for Moms in the Trenches. She writes from rural Colorado and enjoys connecting with readers on her personal blog, Facebook and Instagram.

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