When it comes to parenting in the middle of quarantine you might find yourself feeling like the days or overwhelming or feeling unbelievably guilty for being able to be safe at home while still struggling to make it through the day.
We’ve all been told that right now, nothing is normal. And it’s true.
But if you’ve been scrolling through social media you know that it seems like everyone else is taking advantage of new goals, sharing photos of delicious take-out meals from local restaurants or maybe finding their stride in home-schooling.
But here is the thing that no one is talking about.
You don't need to be supermom right now or quite honestly, ever.
It’s perfectly okay to skip making new, big personal goals with all this extra time at home. If you’re likely juggling working all day with managing the kids, the last thing you need on your plate is trying to accomplish MORE.
Just because you didn’t start a new side business, finally create a cleaning schedule, or start a new fitness routine doesn’t mean you failed. It means you kept your family calm, soothed little one’s nerves and helped transition from their normal days to complete upheaval in almost no time.
It’s perfectly okay to make every dinner at home because each week you are concerned about a potential furlough in the next week. Support local businesses when you can, but don’t overextend yourself.
On the flip side, you may find yourself ordering dinner out more because you don't have the energy to walk back into the kitchen for the twentieth time of the day, make more food that potentially no one wants to eat, and clean-up.
Don't feel guilty if that's what helps you survive this time. This doesn’t have to be the time that you jump into finding a new love of scratch made dinners.
It’s perfectly okay to try to stay up on the kids’ schoolwork but not do every optional project. When you’re trying to stay employed it might mean that the kids have to complete some work alone.
Not every family has 6+ hours a day to devote to dedicated schooling. Do what you can to keep the kids involved without sacrificing yourself and your livelihood. Try to plan the day around the live classroom meetings so that the kids feel a part of their classroom.
Our communities were not ready for this and you should not feel like you are supposed to be doing better.
Moms everywhere have been told that what works for one family may not work for others. Right now, that has never been truer.
Give yourself permission to mourn your normal routines. We don’t know that the new normal will look like after this, but hopefully this has given us all the ability to learn our own boundaries and see that we all know what works best for our families—not someone else’s on social media.