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In This Day And Age, How Should The Birds And The Bees Be Explained?

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I can only guess how. Honestly, I have no idea how to explain the birds and the bees to my kids. How can I?

In this day and age, it's not just the birds and the bees. I would also have to consider the birds and the birds and the bees and the bees. That's the part that's kind of hard to explain. As it is, it's hard enough to talk about the birds and bees, right?

Starting Them Young

I have three kids. Although sometimes, I feel like I have four with my husband and all but that's a different story.

In retrospect, I think I started the birds-and-the-bees talk quite early. Ever since my kids were babies, I would repeatedly tell them that NO ONE should ever touch their private parts.

At that time, I had innocent eyes staring back at me. But heck, I wanted them to know early on that their private parts should always remain PRIVATE.

I really didn't mean that to be a birds-and-the-bees story. At that time, I had always meant it for safety. I was committed to repeat it until my kids understood.

Then they grew older. That's when it transformed into a birds-and-the-bees story.

Kids Can Be So Funny

As my kids are growing older, it's harder for me to explain. But in spite of that, there are some funny moments with my kids.

Here's an example. One time, my 11-year old son actually brought up the topic of condom. This happened while I was driving and my heart almost stopped. I asked him if he knew what a condom was and he said, "Yes, Mom! That's the thing that can be filled with water to make as a balloon!"

I laughed nervously. Nonetheless, I did tell him what it was. To this day, I don't even think he understood me. But hey, I tried.

Explaining the birds and the bees to my kids can be very awkward and at the same time downright funny. In all honesty, I wouldn't know how to talk about the birds and the birds and the bees and the bees.

Now don't get me wrong. I have nothing against the birds and birds and the bees and the bees. I just don't know how to explain those things to my kids.

Why I Think It's Important

I really think it's important to talk to kids about it. As a parent, I think it would lessen the stigma on the topic. If my kids were aware of it earlier, they would know how to handle certain situations.

Seriously, if my kids know how sincere I am in dealing with the topic, they wouldn't be uncomfortable with me if in case they have to come out. That is just where I am coming from.

While I think it's very important for kids to understand such topic, I'm still in the dark as to how to go about explaining it. But that doesn't mean I have to stop.

According to an article on, we just have to keep on trying. Oh, boy, have I been trying! But I am not going to stop because I want to raise respectful and tolerant human beings.

How do you guys talk to your kids about it?

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