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Date night! Ah yes, a romantic candlelit dinner followed by salsa dancing. Or perhaps you choose to snuggle up with your partner to watch the latest Will Ferrell sports comedy with a Starbucks double-shot non-fat lactose-free latté.

Better yet, you drop the kids off at the grandparents for a few hours of uninterrupted passionate love-making!

Hmmm, well… after years of marriage, things become… comfortable… w hich is a nice way of saying that the thrill is long gone.

How do you keep the romance alive and kicking when your husband’s favourite hobby is to curl his legs up and hold a lighter to his ass when he farts? Not to say that it isn’t hilarious and you don’t find his silly antics amusing. But his creative gas-releasing talents can only take him so far.

Perhaps you’re not a romantic-comedy heroine either. Your husband will never let you forget that he saw everything in the hospital room and he even held your placenta in his hands for God’s sakes! I mean, if that’s not love then what the heck is?

Forget the chocolate this Valentine’s Day, and instead, heat things up for Valentine’s Day.

Don’t bother with the lousy service at an expensive restaurant. Put the kids to bed early – better yet, drop them off at your parents or in-laws – and create some sizzle and spice with your partner under the sheets.

It’s the season of love and although you may lavish your loved one all year round, Valentine’s Day is a good excuse to kick it up a notch and heat things up in the bedroom. Here’s how:


Start the day by texting a sweet, romantic or down and dirty sext to your spouse! Get them excited throughout the day, leading up to your sexy night together.

Wear new lingerie

First thing, take a trip to Victoria’s Secret or La Vie en Rose and pick out a new piece of lingerie for your romantic evening. Better yet, have him go instead and pick something out for you.

Create the mood

Light the room with candles, put on some romantic music and have champagne and strawberries ready for your special night in.

Focus on Foreplay

Don’t rush to get to the main event! Foreplay is an integral component leading up to sexual intercourse. Take your time kissing, touching, and massaging before the “main event.” Try scented body oil to heighten the sensation.

Get adventurous

Try some new tricks in the bedroom. Watch an adult movie together. Try role playing. Add a new toy or lubricants help to enhance the sensations between both you and your partner.

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