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I recently had a stye in my left eye. I don’t think I’ve had one of those since I was a teenager. I made an appointment to see my doctor, of course, now I’m older than all of my doctors, but that’s just the way it is.

Every time I go, I have to step on the dreaded scale….stripping down to the just the bare minimum without looking ridiculous…and hold my breath (hoping it might take off a pound - and note to self…it doesn’t work)

and then the height measurement….

Now I’ve always been 5’4 1’2”(I take pride in 1/2”) and if you’re that height - you know it’s the armpit level in a crowd, and always the ‘dog sniffing crotch’ level…

Oh the joys….(and I’m just hoping I haven’t shrunk…because I don’t want to start hearing about osteoporosis…I have enough on my plate).

Then…the dreaded blood pressure check….and the nurse says, “Oh, you’re at that age…when women really have problems with their weight and blood pressure…but you look ok, this time”.


Then I hear the knock….and the doctor comes in, she looked at me and says, “When you hit menopause, your eyes water more, your skin changes, your hair thins a bit, and there’s an increased chance of developing styes. You have a stye.”

Yup…there it was….the M word….MENOPAUSE! It seems to be the cause of most things these days…..

Now it’s time to get down to business….

Have you experienced a hot flash?

Have you had a moment when you’re searching for your glasses, and they’re actually on your head?

Have you had a time when you have the word at the tip of your tongue…and you just can’t say it?

Do you feel like you’ve gained 5 pounds around your middle and haven’t been eating Donuts for breakfast, lunch and dinner?

Do you wake up during the night and can’t fall back to sleep?

Do your periods sneak up on you…and you’ve had a month or two, that stops you in your tracks, you chant to yourself, “I can’t be pregnant, I can’t be pregnant” and then the next day…it’s baaaack!

Check, Check, Check, Check, Check, DOUBLE CHECK…. for me….and guess what?

It’s menopause, baby!

The dictionary defines menopause as "The period of cessation of menstruation, occurring usually between the ages of 45 and 50. Also called "change of life."

“The Change”…..really? Call a spade a spade…..It’s MENOPAUSE!

Here’s an interesting stat. Over 70 million of us are 45 and over. And that’s the average age that menopause begins. I found that pretty shocking…and then thought to myself…what products are out there that are that even mention the word menopause? For Pete’s sake, we hear about erectile dysfunction every day….and I realize that’s a medical condition….but shouldn’t there be something out there for us…going through the wonderful stage of life….. (and I do go there….on the podcast…it’s worth tuning in to Fearlessly Facing Fifty anywhere you listen to podcasts)


People have tiptoed around this subject for years, calling it the "change of life"

And you know what….not anymore!

Life doesn’t end at menopause…as a matter of fact, from what I’ve heard…it’s pretty ‘frickin’ awesome once you make it through. Now, let’s be honest, it’s a bit like puberty…

you hit it…

it’s all so very awkward, and honestly sucks in the middle…

and then you reach the end.


I really don’t like the ‘men’ in menopause….because men don’t experience anything like it….but ‘womenopause’….there’s just no ring to that….

Now, we may have higher AC bills in the summer….and our gym membership fees may go up…because we just keep gaining weight….but it’s all ok!

We are in this thing together!

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