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Raising kids is one of the hardest and most rewarding work in the world - and one for which you feel less prepared. Here are some essential tips for raising your kids that can help you feeling more fulfilled as a parent.

1. Build your child's self-esteem

Children begin to develop their sense of self when they see each other through the eyes of their parents. Your tone of voice, your body language, and all your expressions are absorbed by your children. Your words and actions as a parent affect their development of self-esteem more than anything else.

The praiseworthy accomplishments, however small, will make them proud; letting children do things independently will make them feel capable and strong. On the other hand, minimizing comments or comparing one child unfavorably with another will make children feel vain.

2. Reward your children being good

Have you ever stopped thinking about the number of times you react negatively to your children on a given day? You may find yourself criticizing much more often than complimenting. What would you think of a boss who treated you with so many negative tips, even if he was well-intentioned?

The most effective approach is to surprise children who do something good: "You made your bed without being asked, it's great!

Make sure to find something like invention to rent every day. Be generous with the rewards - your love, hugs, and compliments can work wonders and are often reward enough. Soon, you will find that you are "growing" more of the behavior you would like to see.

3. Set boundaries and be consistent with your discipline

Discipline is needed in every home. The goal of the discipline is to help children choose acceptable behaviors and learn to control themselves. They can test the boundaries you set for them, but they need those boundaries to become responsible adults.

Setting the rules of the house helps children understand your expectations and develop self-control. Some rules may include no television until the homework is finished, no hitting, insults or hurtful teasing.

4. Take time for your children

It's often difficult for parents and children to get together for a family meal, not to mention having a good time together. But there is probably nothing that children would like more. Get up 10 minutes early so you can have breakfast with your child or leave the dishes in the sink and take a walk after dinner. Children who do not receive the attention they expect from their parents often act or behave badly because they are definitely noticed this way.

5. Be a good model

Young children learn a lot to play by watching their parents. The younger they are, the more signals they take. Before you start or bang in front of your child, think about this: Do you want your child to behave when he is angry? Know that your children are constantly watching you. Studies have shown that children who have been beaten usually have a model of aggression at home.

6. Make communication a priority

You cannot expect children to do everything because you say it as a parent. If we do not take the time to explain ourselves, the children will begin to question our values and motivations and to ask if they have any basis. Parents who reason with their children enable them to understand and learn in a non-critical way. Follow Us to explore more about the effective education of children

7. Be flexible and ready to adjust your parenting style

If you often feel "let down" by your child's behavior, you may have unrealistic expectations. Parents who think "should" (for example, "My child should now be cleansed") might find it useful to learn about the subject or talk to other parents or child development specialists.

Children's environments affect their behavior, so you can change this behavior by modifying the environment. If you constantly say "no" to your 2-year-old child, look for ways to change your environment to limit the number of things that are prohibited.

And try to make parenting a manageable job. Focus on the areas that require the most attention rather than trying to fix everything at the same time. Admit it when you're exhausted. Take the time to do things that will make you happy as a person (or as a couple).

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