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Conflicts in the family

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Every family can go through certain conflicts and crises. In particular, these conflicts are due to the imperfection of each of us. Even those people who really love each other can succumb to external circumstances, which results in a quarrel.

The funny thing is that the people who love each other the most are the one who quarrel a lot. This is due to the huge vortex of emotions that they experience. It is dangerous to pretend that there are no problems when they arise, because hidden and unresolved conflicts lead to constant tension and increased violence in the family. No less dangerous is the other extreme, that is, the desire to "resolve" conflicts through violence, blackmail or manipulation. In such a case, you need to consult a lawyer or social services.

The most serious conflicts occur when one of a family member goes through a crisis as they begin to hurt not only themselves, but also hurt their loved ones. This happens, for example, when somebody abuses alcohol which might lead to DUI charges or when somebody cheats on his or her partner. In such a situation, it is not possible to discuss the matter and subsequently resolve the conflict. This is due to the fact that a person who is going through a crisis can’t properly comprehend their own behavior. Of course, in any situation, people have the right for protection in the form of the police and social workers.

Quite often, a conflict can occur because you or your partner has been in a difficult life situation recently. For example, when someone of you loses their job or their close family members contract a serious illness. You can overcome such difficulties through mutual support and love.

Problems take place constantly and they are simply inevitable. However, you should possess the necessary skills and a certain degree of strength in order to be able to overcome them. You need to deal with your problems and strengthen the sense of security in your family for the future. What is more, it is very important to actually look for a solution when faced with a problem but not only pretend to do so. Thanks to conflicts, we have the opportunity to better understand each other, and learn how to provide the support needed, and increase the level of trust in each other.

Nevertheless, you should not build castles in the air and try to avoid conflicts all the time. First, it is unreasonable, and secondly, thanks to quarrels, we learn how to solve problems and trust each other more.

And remember that whatever happens, a family is our personal happy rabbit hole where we can hide from the whole world. If we destroy this place, we will become socially homeless people. In extreme situations, as we have said before, one can turn to social workers, or the lawyers. For example, if your partner is charged with DUI, you might want to consult Toronto DUI lawyers from company.

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