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A note to close out Mother's Day--always remember you are loved

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๐‘€๐’ถ๐“Ž๐’ท๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ๐’น๐’ถ๐“Ž ๐“Œ๐’ถ๐“ˆ ๐’ฟ๐“Š๐“ˆ๐“‰ ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐‘œ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’๐“‡ ๐’ฎ๐“Š๐“ƒ๐’น๐’ถ๐“Ž ๐’ป๐‘œ๐“‡ ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š. Maybe it was spent trying to catch up on that never-ending pile of laundry. Maybe today was just another day of wiping noses and tushies. Maybe today was just another day of cutting the crust off of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, and hiding in the pantry, just so you can shove a piece of your kidโ€™s Easter candy in your mouth without them seeing you. Maybe today was just another day of feeling unappreciated, going about the day without a solitary โ€œthank youโ€ or even an acknowledgment that today was Motherโ€™s Day.

๐‘€๐’ถ๐“Ž๐’ท๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ๐’น๐’ถ๐“Ž ๐“Œ๐’ถ๐“ˆ ๐“ˆ๐“…๐‘’๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐‘”๐“‡๐’พ๐‘’๐“‹๐’พ๐“ƒ๐‘”, ๐“Œ๐’ฝ๐‘’๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’๐“‡ ๐’พ๐“‰ ๐’ท๐‘’ ๐’ป๐‘œ๐“‡ ๐’ถ ๐’ธ๐’ฝ๐’พ๐“๐’น ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š ๐“๐‘œ๐“ˆ๐“‰ ๐‘œ๐“‡ ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’ ๐“‚๐‘œ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’๐“‡ ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐’ถ๐“‰ ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š ๐’ถ๐“‡๐‘’ ๐“ƒ๐‘œ ๐“๐‘œ๐“ƒ๐‘”๐‘’๐“‡ ๐’ถ๐’ท๐“๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ ๐’ถ๐“…๐“…๐“‡๐‘’๐’ธ๐’พ๐’ถ๐“‰๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ๐’น๐’ถ๐“Ž. Maybe today was another day of โ€œwhat ifsโ€ and thinking of what could have been. Maybe today was filled with tears, lots and lots of tears. Maybe today was filled with overwhelming sadness and empty arms. Maybe today was an extremely difficult day for you, with a heaving weight on your chest, and you were barely able to get out of bed this morning.

๐‘€๐’ถ๐“Ž๐’ท๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ๐’น๐’ถ๐“Ž ๐“Œ๐’ถ๐“ˆ ๐“ˆ๐“…๐‘’๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐’ท๐‘’๐’ฝ๐’พ๐“ƒ๐’น ๐’ถ ๐’ธ๐“๐‘œ๐“ˆ๐‘’๐’น ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐’น ๐“๐‘œ๐’ธ๐“€๐‘’๐’น ๐’น๐‘œ๐‘œ๐“‡, ๐“Œ๐’ฝ๐’พ๐“๐‘’ ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š๐“‡ ๐’ธ๐’ฝ๐’พ๐“๐’น๐“‡๐‘’๐“ƒ ๐“Œ๐‘’๐“‡๐‘’ ๐’พ๐“ƒ ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’ ๐’ธ๐’ถ๐“‡๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐’ป ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š๐“‡ ๐“ˆ๐“…๐‘œ๐“Š๐“ˆ๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐“‡ ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’๐’พ๐“‡ ๐‘”๐“‡๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐’น๐“…๐’ถ๐“‡๐‘’๐“ƒ๐“‰๐“ˆ. Maybe today was filled with watching Leonardo DiCaprio movies on repeat (can I get an AMEN for some Romeo and Juliet!?). Maybe today was filled with uncounted calories and your favorite pair of comfy sweatpants. Maybe today was a day of relinquished parental duties, where you got an entire day of peace, quiet, and rest. Maybe today was filled with much-needed naps. Maybe today was spent entirely alone, and you wouldnโ€™t have it any other way.


๐‘€๐’ถ๐“Ž๐’ท๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ๐’น๐’ถ๐“Ž ๐“Œ๐’ถ๐“ˆ ๐“ˆ๐“…๐‘’๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐“Œ๐’พ๐“‰๐’ฝ ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š๐“‡ ๐’ป๐’ถ๐“‚๐’พ๐“๐“Ž, ๐’ป๐“‡๐‘œ๐“‚ ๐“ˆ๐“Š๐“ƒ-๐“Š๐“… ๐“‰๐‘œ ๐“ˆ๐“Š๐“ƒ-๐’น๐‘œ๐“Œ๐“ƒ. Maybe today was filled with breakfast in bed, handmade cards, fresh-cut flowers, and a feeling of being appreciated. Maybe today was filled with a feeling of being pampered. Maybe it was filled with picnic lunches down at the beach, walks in the sun, and a home-cooked dinner that you didnโ€™t have to make. Maybe it was filled with the dishes being done by someone that wasnโ€™t you, a chilled glass of Pinot Grigio, and a Real Housewives of Beverly Hills marathon on Bravo.

๐‘€๐’ถ๐“Ž๐’ท๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ๐’น๐’ถ๐“Ž ๐“Œ๐’ถ๐“ˆ ๐“ˆ๐“…๐‘’๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐“Œ๐’พ๐“ˆ๐’ฝ๐’พ๐“ƒ๐‘”. Maybe it was spent hoping for a positive pregnancy test. Maybe it was spent with an overwhelming sense of anger and frustration at your body, feeling like a failure that you havenโ€™t gotten pregnant yet. Maybe it was spent with the curtains drawn, washing yourself in darkness, hoping that the day will just fly by. Maybe today was spent asking when your time will come. Maybe today was filled with jealousy at a friendโ€™s pregnancy announcement on Facebook.

Today might be an extremely difficult day for some or it may be the most pleasant day of the year.

You may have cried.







So, to the biological mothers, the adoptive and foster mothers. To the single mothers and married mothers. To the grandmothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, and mother figures. To the should-be mothers and grieving mothers. To the step-mothers and mothers-in law. To those without their mothers and to the fathers that play both extremely important roles.

Whatever you did today, and however you chose to spend it, remember how ๏ผฌ๏ผฏ๏ผถ๏ผฅ๏ผค you are.


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