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Taking Care of My Kids after Rhinoplasty

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Ever since I was a teenager, I wanted a nose job. My nose was asymmetrical due to a fracture I had when I was a kid. But, most plastic surgeons refuse to operate on teenagers until their growth spurt is complete. After my teenage years, I went to college and kind of lived on a budget so I couldn’t afford rhinoplasty. When everything finally fell into place, I had another thing to worry about – my kids. As a single mother, I was afraid who’s going to take care of my kids and for how long will I be unable to do so. Luckily for me, I had a great surgeon who answered all of my questions and assured me I will be back with my kids in no time. All it took was some planning and a little bit of help.

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At the time of my procedure, my kids were young – 3 and 5 years old. My doctor warned me about how I will look after the surgery. I woke up from general anesthesia with bruising around my eyes. This happens as a byproduct of blood being trapped in small blood vessels around your nose. I also had to wear a splint for two weeks which served as a “mold” and helped my nose obtain the desired shape. I knew my kids would be scared if they saw me like that – kids tend to get anxious if they think their parent is in pain. So, I had them prepared with numerous long conversations, and I strongly recommend this to anyone who is planning on doing anything similar.

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I was able to go home the day after the surgery. The first two days were the hardest. I had a headache and felt really tired, so my mom came and helped with the kids. After that, I hired a babysitter. I never had a sitter before, so I didn’t know who to call. Fortunately, rhinoplasty is a quite popular plastic surgery in Sydney, so I had a few friends who went through the same thing, and they recommended me a teenage girl who helped them during their recovery.

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The hardest thing in this period was explaining to my kids why I can’t play with them. It’s very important not to bump your nose for at least eight weeks, which is very hard to avoid when you have two little, hyperactive boys. I wear glasses and can’t drive without them, but the doctor told me not to wear them for a month. Also, I had to keep out from the sun, and I had my surgery during summer, so I couldn’t run errands either. This is where my babysitter and a couple of friends helped me a lot. For the first two weeks, I wasn’t allowed to exercise, bend over or pick up anything heavy. Up to 20 pounds is acceptable, but my kids were heavier than that so I had to be extra careful. Heavy lifting can stress incisions and slow down the healing process, so I read to them, fed them and played games that were safe for me to play.

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When I recovered, I realized I actually spent more time with my kids than I would usually do because I was home all the time. So, don’t worry, you kids won’t suffer. Just have them prepared. Also, swallow your pride and ask for help. Do not put yourself or your kids in danger by thinking you can do everything on your own. Recovery time passes quickly and soon you’ll be back with your kids and you’ll enjoy your new face.

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