EditStop trying to be perfect! There's no such thing. You're only hurting your kids trying to impress other parents you don't really like to begin with.

Stop trying to think your child has to be perfect. Let them lose at something and explain that they will lose and that's okay. Let them know they're not going to be good at everything. It is okay to be average. Stop forcing them to be good at everything. You're doing it for yourself because you don't want to acknowledge that maybe your kid isn't going to be the best? You're fulfilling something for yourself through your child. It's a horrible thing to do.

Valuable lessons can be learned by allowing your kid to make mistakes (even those concerning writing research papers or anything else related to studying) admit they won't be good at everything, letting them lose once in awhile, and not pressuring them to do things to satisfy you.

Stop listening to unsolicited parenting advice from everyone who feels they have to get their two cents in when it comes to parenting. I have always lived by the phrase, "you can only do your best." You can't do any better than than that. If some other parent doesn't like it, too bad! They're not the parent. I am. I am not parenting for their approval. Just because they do something doesn't mean it is the right way, not does it make them a better parent. Just because doing something a certain way works for them, doesn't mean it will work for your kids.

And, for the love of God, please get rid of the separation anxiety and guilt you feel because your child is away at camp, starts school for the first time, spends the night at another kid's house, etc. let them do these things. That's part of being a kid. It is not traumatic and you probably are more upset about than your kid.

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