Being a parent for the first time is one of the happiest and most fulfilling experiences in your life. The arrival of a new member marks a new beginning, which develops a caring and responsible parent in you. You surely wouldn’t want this amazing rollercoaster ride to stop.

That said, what about your own romantic rollercoaster? Will this new phase impact your love life? Probably or probably not – depending upon how you think about it. In other words, how you view this sudden transition from husband-wife status to mom-dad status tells where your romantic relationship will be going.

Having said that, before your baby was born, it was relatively easy to focus on your relationship and have quality of time together. Now, priorities, responsibilities, and attention have shifted to the new angel, and rightly so. However, this doesn’t mean you can’t keep your love life as passionate and alive as before. You definitely can!

Here are some tips that will help you keep your romantic relationship moving:

• Keep the magic of dating intact
• Show love and care to your partner by doing household chores
• Take a short romantic excursion during your child’s nap
• Take some moments to connect each day
• Stop complaining, start complementing
• Watch romantic movies together at home

Dating has always been a secret weapon for creating interest in relationship and furthering the feeling of love. So letting it go away simply because you are parents now is like digging the grave of your own love life, so to speak. Just to clear it, dating here is dating your spouse not anyone else. As a matter of fact, dating was the reason why you fell in love in the first place. Thus, it makes a lot of sense that you keep dating even now to stay in state of perpetual love. It doesn’t, however, have to be an over-the-top date. Creating magic with same candle light dinner at home can do the trick. Having home-cooked food, bottles with mini wine labels, and a soothing music in the background will always keep your flame of love burning. The idea is to make alone time with your partner a regular occurrence. Period!

Since the responsibility of successfully running your marriage life is on the shoulders of both of you, so doing household chores like cleaning, washing, shopping etc will go a long way. These acts of service show your partner that you care about her time and needs. A recent report by Pew Research Center reveals how working moms and dads in two-parent households are balancing their jobs with their family responsibilities. In Families living in busiest cities in America, parents are effectively sharing child care, household chores, and grocery purchase. One such example is some parents are taking grocery delivery service in Washington DC to save time as well as perform family responsibilities.

Use your baby’s nap as a way to continue your intimacy by taking a romantic walk. You can do it by putting your child in a stroller or a perambulator while he/she is sleeping. The fresh air is good for your child, while you and your partner will enjoy the short outing. It will help you both understand each other even better in the newfound role of mom and dad. Make sure the setting is natural so your child is not disturbed by high traffic noises or the lights and sounds of a busy market.

It’s possible you may lose track of what’s happening in your partner’s world after your baby was born. It’s also the time when things might slip completely out of hands. So before anything like that happens, just take some precious moments each day and ask your spouse about his or her day and connect with each other. By making this a routine affair, you can give each other your undivided attention. Just listen without any judgment what your partner is going through and what are issues, if any. A little bit of empathy, care, and understanding can go a long way in keeping you stay connected heart to heart.

The burden of new responsibilities and decisions can make you stressed at times. It is futile to bring out your frustration on your partner. Remember, two of you make one happy family and set the course of your future. So just be one another’s strength and handle your stress and tension accordingly. It is important to note here that you shouldn’t become love addict or love avoidant at the same time. Such an approach will only going to give you pain. Whatever happens, you shouldn’t complain, but rather, your relationship is all about complementing each other.

Whenever you get sufficient time, just be your older self when movies played their bit in eliciting a passionate lover in you. Watching romantic movies together at home will take you back in time and living those nostalgic moments is simply awesome. Just choose a dozen of cult classic romance and occasionally watch them with same interest. Some good romantic movies of all time are: Casablance, Love Story, When Harry Met Sally, and my favorite, Pretty Woman.

Wrapping Up

The key to continuing your love life is to connect each other at a deeper level. It doesn’t matter how many kids you have, you will never lose the charm of your love for one another.