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How involved should you be in your child’s digital life?

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Most parents would like to know what their children are doing online, but it can be tricky knowing where to draw the line between respect for child’s privacy and care for its wellbeing. Going too far can cause a lot of tension in the family and damage its cohesion, but on the other hand failing to supervise a minor’s activities can have even more devastating consequences. Finding the right balance is the key, and there are numerous questions that almost every parent has to answer.

Peeking into child’s cell phone or not?

It is a great temptation to look into findpare for your kid’s phone and read private messages, but doing this discreetly won’t be easy. Modern-day teenagers are careful to lock their phones when they are leaving them unguarded, which happens rarely anyway. There are some technological solutions that can allow you to cell phone spy without access, but their use may be warranted only if the parent has strong reasons to suspect foul play. It is important not to get obsessed with having to know every detail – because you won’t be able to be involved in everything your kid does even if you try.

Friendship on social media?

Another frequent point of contention is whether the child should be obligated to accept the parent as a social media contact. Many young people resist this, wanting to keep their conversations with friends away from adult eyes. Parents would obviously want some insight into the friendships their children make, as well as a way to search for signs of risky behavior. However, deciding whether it’s worth insisting should be made individually by each parent based on their child’s reaction and objective factors. Why doubt if your kid has never been prone to getting in trouble before?

How old is old enough?

Age is a really important factor here – some security measures may be appropriate for a 12-year old, but not for a 17-year old. You also want to take peer factor into account, and treat the child in a similar way to its classmates and neighbors so it doesn’t feel unfairly singled out. It may be best to gradually grant them more individual space and monitor how responsibly they behave, rewarding them with additional freedoms when they display mature patterns of thinking. This way you can foster trust while also retaining a degree of control for as long as you consider necessary.

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