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Decorating a Shared Bedroom for Opposite Sex Siblings

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When we raise our kids, the first and foremost priority is that they have a pleasant, happy childhood. This means that we want our children to be able to learn new things, develop their creativity, and ultimately, enjoy themselves. That’s why we try to make their rooms adequate for all their activities, from sleeping and playing, to creating refrigerator art, because their rooms are the place where they should feel relaxed and safe.


Sadly, not all of us have the space for each of the kids to have their own room, and in this case, our kids have to share bedrooms. Some may think that this can limit them in certain ways, but with clever planning, you can be sure that this won’t happen, even if a boy and a girl share the same room.

Here are several ways you can decorate a room so that opposite sex siblings can share and enjoy it:

Separate spaces

The first thing you should do is enable each of the kids to have their own space. In this way, they won’t feel like they need to share everything, and it will help them have their individual parts of the room. This can be done in several ways. One of them includes a room divider, which can come in a wide range of designs and materials, from glass to wood; you can even think of your own, or find ideas here.

However, if the room is smaller, try playing with colors to make the division. Let them pick their favorite color combinations and paint the walls in those, each their own side.

Make it gender neutral


I think you’ll agree that the time of pink is for girls, blue is for boys is well behind us. Instead, you can paint the room in a neutral color, such as white, beige, gray, and then let them choose the colors they want their parts of the room to be. It IS okay for them to choose pink and blue, just don’t force your opinions on them.


Now that the basics are done, it’s time to focus on the design of each kid’s part of the room. There are a lot of fun DIY activities and projects for room decoration, such as various headboards you can make for both of them. You can also buy kids rugs in the same pattern and different colors, for a sense of cohesion.

Another way to individualize a shared bedroom is storage. If there’s no room for large closets, think of alternatives. Woven baskets, or various colorful and patterned boxes under the beds or on the shelves can make a wonderful substitution for the plain old wardrobe.

There’s something else to think about: beds. Having bunk beds in a shared bedroom isn’t the best idea if you’re trying to make individual spaces. Plus, those beds can often be the reason for kids’ disputes and disagreements.



The last and the most fun part, as always, is accessorizing. This step is all about the kids’ preferences and their personal taste. With your help, they can choose their favorite bedding, accent pillows, books, toys, and all the little things that make children’s rooms oh-so-cute. If there’s enough free space, you can get them matching teepees or beanbags, so they can read and play together. Don’t leave the walls blank! A couple of name signs and some fairy lights will surely make a homely, warm atmosphere.

As you can see, opposite sex kids can share a bedroom, if there’s enough space for them to grow as individuals. But don’t forget to find ways to bring them together through work, play, and fun!

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