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Are You Suffering From Fear, Worry, Stress?

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Are you feeling anxious or tense? Are there things that you worry about? Do you sometimes feel nervous? Do you get easily ruffled? Is stress and integral part of your life? If you believe yourself to be suffering from any of these afflictions, then you’re letting your mind play tricks on you. The inner you cannot be anxious, nervous, stressed or uncertain. The real you is simply not capable of suffering from stress or worry. All these feelings are symptoms of your personality – when you feel that way, it’s only your personality trying to trip you up.

You’ve got to understand that your personality – from the Latin persona, meaning a mask – is simply a mask that not only conceals the real you from everybody else, it has fooled you into believing that it is, in fact, who you are. But, psychology tells us that your personality is a series of snapshots of events and people that made an impression on you during your childhood – what we normally call our formative years. You took snapshots of these things because they were big enough to make you feel good or bad about yourself at that time. Unfortunately, psychology also confirms that the normal person is far more likely to dwell on the negative rather than the positive photographs.

Your subconscious mind is even still obsessed with those photographs and this obsession is what gives life to your personality. Basically, your personality is not real – it may have got you to where you are and you may be very fond of it – but be careful you don’t fall in love with an illusion.

To rid your life of the afflictions from which only your illusory personality can suffer – worry, stress, anxiety, self-doubt, fear, loneliness – you’re going to have to go beyond your personality, your perceived strengths and weaknesses. You need to go searching within for the inner you because not only does it not comprehend worry, stress, doubt, not only is the inner you fearless, the real you is capable of achieving effortless success and happiness. The great thing is that you won’t need to look to hard to find the real you – it is waiting to be found. You will discover the real you in the quiet of a reflective moment, in the experience of one of those perfect “natural high” moments that we experience at some point in our lives – where peace and happiness reign.

But you shouldn’t wait for the next peak moment to get over the illusions of worry, stress and all the rest. You can do that right now by trying a little meditation. When you meditate you will start to experience that stress, tension and fear are simply destructive thoughts and that a clear and focused mind (the real you) simply has not time for that kind of nonsense – it has far more important work to do.

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