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3 Ways to Avoid Helicopter Parenting

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Helicopter parenting is such a common thing in many countries around the world. Parents are always trying to pay attention to every detail of their child and while there is nothing wrong with this, sometimes it can go overboard. One of the main causes of helicopter parenting is fear. In any family anywhere in the world you will find a parent who deep down always fears that they are not doing enough. There is that voice inside that tells them that something bad is going to happen. They feel the urge to do something about it and before you know it, it becomes a compulsive behavior.

However, getting rid of fear in parenting is easy and below are a few tips that can help you:

Be Mindful

Mindfulness is simply a conscious state of being aware of something. When it comes to fears surrounding parenting, it can be a great asset in overcoming helicopter parenting. You need to be aware of everything that is going on around you. You must have a feeling of control in your mind. This will allow you to be more conformable as you bring up your kids. Mindfulness can also help you understand what exactly your fear is about and then start working on it moving forward.

Know Your Triggers

Many parents have different triggers that simply make them respond to things in a very strong or unusual way. You need to understand your triggers like maybe playing slots. It could be something small or something big. However, if you learn how to respond to various things then you will always be in control. The best way to do this is to basically sit down with a book and write down all the things that push you to the edge. Limit this to just one day. Think about the morning. Was there anything that really got on your nerves? How about the afternoon and the evening? Write all these things down and start working on them.

Listen and Pay Attention to Your Child

Paying attention to your child more closely can actually bring you to a state where you feel there is nothing to worry about. We all make the mistake of thinking the worse even in cases where there is no reason to do so. Spend a few hours of your day listening and observing your child. Don’t do this with the intention of reading them or responding to what they are doing. Small kids can be easy to read. The moment you start connecting with your child and understanding his or her behavior pattern at this tender age, the sooner you’ll learn to let go of the unnecessary worries.

Helicopter parenting can be very stressful for any parent and it’s important to find ways to deal with it as soon as possible. The tips above might help but they may require some level of commitment and patience. But if you get them right, everything will be fine.

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